Overcome feelings of Guilt & Shame
Help with feelings of guilt and shame using hypnotherapy & Counselling in Fareham, Southampton, Portsmouth & Winchester.
Guilt is that horrible feeling of wrongdoing that we have all experienced, it eats away at us. Guilt causes us to bring in to question our actions or our thoughts in a very critical way. Guilt is that horrid emotion that feels like at times it just won’t shift, we feel bad, we feel like we have done wrong and at times it can linger over us. We learn this emotion from an early age, it forces us to take responsibility for our actions and it allows us to learn and grow. Part of the reason why guilt is such a strong emotion is that it is completely personal. When you love, you love someone, when you are angry, you are angry at someone or something, but guilt is what you feel and what you feel alone.
Is guilt ever a good thing?
Proportionate guilt is healthy. This is where our feelings of guilt are justified in letting us know that we have done something out of line with our own ethics of conduct or moral standards. This kind of guilt allows us to analyse our actions, take responsibility and amend the wrongdoing. For example, if you had a fight with someone that got out of hand and you said things in the heat of the moment that you did not mean then you may begin to feel guilty about those things that you said. The emotion of guilt in these circumstances demonstrates that you have over stepped the mark and that you may need to take action to amend the wrong doing such as apologising for saying the words in the first place.
This is where guilt is felt and makes us feel bad but the emotion is out of proportion to the action. For example, you may feel guilty if you are in a situation where you feel you are not doing enough for someone – like caring for a sick relative. Disproportionate guilt here can occur when we set high standards for ourselves that we simply can’t meet. When we fail to reach these standards we then feel guilty about it.
You may be suffering from survivor’s guilt, where a close friend or family member has died and you feel guilty for still being alive. This is disproportionate guilt as we feel bad for something that we cannot control and this only serves the purpose of making us feel bad.
Parenthood can also contribute to feelings of guilt that are disproportionate. For example, the mother who goes back to work leaving the child with a carer or at nursery – she may feel guilty about this.
It may be tough to decide if your feelings of guilt are proportionate or not but if you feel that the emotion of guilt is becoming too much for you to cope with then it is time to seek help.
When guilt gets too much:
Holding on to guilt and harbouring it can cause us problems as this can have the following effects:
- Low self-esteem
- Feeling stuck in a certain situation
- Being self-critical
- Negative thoughts about yourself
It is easy to see how this emotion can at times be consuming and it is important to deal with this emotion appropriately and then let it go.
Letting go of guilt and getting the balance right
Hypnotherapy will enable you to deal with this emotion in an effective and positive way. It will help you to address the action or event that led to you feeling the emotion in the first place. If needed, a new perspective on the situation can be gained and then hypnotherapy can give you the confidence to correct the wrong doing if this is required or it can help you to gain a better more rational perspective. As well as all of this, hypnosis is effective in increasing your self-esteem, getting rid of the negative thoughts you may have about yourself and then allowing your confidence to flourish.
When you feel guilty there is a tendency for you to blame yourself perhaps for things that are out of your control. When you hang on to this guilt and blame yourself in this way you end up taking responsibility perhaps for things that weren’t or aren’t your fault. Hypnotherapy can help you to redress this balance ensuring that you accept those things that are out of your control and don’t harbour feelings of guilt. Forgiving yourself, letting go of the guilt and moving on are important parts of the process and hypnotherapy can help you do this.
So no matter what type of guilt you may have been hanging on to or experiencing you need not let it eat away at you any longer. Allow our hypnotherapists help you to redress the balance with hypnosis. We have been helping people in Fareham, Portsmouth, Southampton and Bournemouth get rid of their guilt. Let us help you too- it’s time to let go.
At the Hampshire Hypnotherapy & Counselling Centre, we really do understand and we’re here to help you. The first step is to admit that your guilt is causing you problems in your life and then just pick up the phone and call us on 0800 970 4776 or 07946 641270 and have a quick chat with one of our friendly team of professional hypnotherapists & Counsellors. You can then book an appointment to pop in for a free initial consultation and we can explain the therapy to you and you can ask any questions you may have.
We’re open from 9 am until 8.30 pm every weekday and on Saturday from 9 am to 5 pm. We can even arrange Sunday appointments if that suits you better. You don’t have to suffer the problems you have with your guilt. Let us help you to gain control of your guilt and live your life in a much calmer, more relaxed way.
For help with controlling the powerful feelings of guilt and shame call us today. We’re really easy to find in Whiteley, Fareham and in central Southampton,