Help for victims of Sexual Abuse in Whiteley, Fareham, Portsmouth and Southampton
There is so much in the media at the moment about the allegations of sexual abuse and sexual harassment against Hollywood film producer Harvey Weinstein. Are you finding that all the publicity has triggered upsetting memories of sexual abuse or sexual harassment that you have experienced in the past?
Have you been the victim of a sexual predator? Are you experiencing sexual abuse or harassment at the moment? If so we can help you.
Sexual abuse can take many forms. It may be that someone has kissed you or attempted to kiss you against your will. It may be that you have been coerced into performing sexual acts such having a threesome or anal sex against your will. Have you felt uncomfortable, scared or powerless in a situation where unwanted sexual advances have been made to you?
Some people believe that sexual abuse has to involve actual rape but that’s not the case. You have the right to feel safe and if any unwanted sexual attention you have received has made you feel unsafe or frightened then that can have a profound effect on you.
Non consensual sex in any relationship, straight or same sex, is abuse and can be anything from groping through to rape and can cause both physical and emotional pain. When you have been a victim of any form of unwanted sexual attention and are experiencing the emotional pain attached to that experience it can have an extremely negative impact on your life.
Have you been the victim of a sexual predator?
Would you know if someone in your life or who was in your life in the past is or was a sexual predator? Sexual predators often show similar personality traits one of them in the form of being people who are in very powerful in their work/professional life. Often other members of staff may laughingly refer to this person as the office pervert or the office letch. They may be perceived as being a bit ‘creepy’ to be around but nothing you can really be exact about. More often than not when these sexual predators are being discussed people might say things about them such as, ‘(name) is a bit weird, I don’t like being alone in the office with them’ or ‘ He/she’s probably harmless, it’s just me being over sensitive’. There may be people in your work place who are only too well aware of just how weird and abusive the sex pest may be but they are too afraid to speak out for fear of repercussions such as losing their job or being made to feel like they must have done something to provoke the person harassing or abusing them.
It is not your fault!
If you have been a victim of sexual abuse it is not your fault and help is available to help you to recover from your abuse and to help you move on with your life and start to regain your self-control and self-respect.
If you have been the victim of sexual abuse or sexual trauma you may well have emotional scares that are difficult to heal. Do you find that you frequently relive those experiences were your abused and felt powerless to do anything about it? Is the person who abused you still present in your life in some way? Are they constantly undermining you? Are they there in your thoughts a lot? Sexual predators often seem to have control over their victims even if a long time has passed since the actual abuse took place. It’s as if they are still able to undermine your confidence and have control over your everyday life.
When an abuser first comes into your life they may appear to be charming and attentive. Without you even realising what is happening they can quickly become controlling and manipulative under the disguise of showing concern for you and your wellbeing.
Your abuser may at first explain their over attentiveness as wanting to look after you and care for you. They may say they are only concerned with you happiness and in the beginning this can feel wonderful. After all, who wouldn’t be flattered by a ‘knight in shining armour’ showing them all that attention and care. This could well be the man or woman of your dreams; everything you’ve ever wished for! The truth is that this attentiveness is really just part of the grooming process. It’s the start of the process of taking away your feelings of independence and self-reliance.
As your abuser continues to manipulate you, you may find that he/she begins to criticise your clothes, your friends and/or your relatives. They may make you feel that you are continuously at fault, like you are a ‘bad person’. As this treatment continues you may become worn down with it and even start to believe it yourself, feeling that you should apologise for your faults and behaviour and give your abuser even more control over you. Gradually you can become so groomed that you actually believe to be on the receiving end of the abuse that you are the victim of.
Victims of childhood sexual abuse.
Studies show that victims of childhood sexual abuse are more vulnerable and therefore more likely to go on to become victims of emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse as adults.
You are not alone.
If you feel you are now, or have been in the past, a victim of sexual, emotional or physical abuse then we have a friendly team of professional therapists and counsellors who can help you. Your personal therapist will listen to all your fears and anxieties and be able to help you to resolve any issues that are now having a detrimental effect on your now. So if you are feeling, helpless, frightened and vulnerable as a result of being in or having been in any type of abusive relationship then please get in touch with us now. We will be there for you to help you to get over the effects of the isolation and loneliness you may be feeling. Your confidentiality is guaranteed so please do not be afraid to call. We will support you in your personal journey as you come to terms with what has happened to you and help you to recover from the sexual abuse that you have been a victim of.
Symptoms that may arise as a result of being a victim of sexual abuse or harassment.
- Low self-esteem
- Lack of confidence/Feeling of being worthless
- Inability to control your weight
- Drinking too much
- Unable to sustain an intimate relationship
- Fear of sex/Pain during sex
- Feeling isolated
- Flash backs of the abuse you have been the victim of
- Lack of trust
- Anxiety and panic attacks
- Feelings of guilt or extreme anger
- Severe gagging or a fear of being sick
Get the help you need and deserve now.
Please don’t suffer in silence any longer. Call us in confidence on 0800 970 4776 today and we can have a confidential chat about how we can help you and arrange for you to come along for a free initial consultation at our practice in Whiteley, Fareham, Hampshire. If you prefer or live too far way, then we can offer you one to one therapy sessions over Skype or Facetime. We look forward to your call and to meeting you very soon.